Book Review – How to Live Like a Lady


Lifestyle / Monday, February 10th, 2014
3.5 Stars
How to Live Like a Lady by Sarah Tomczak is a 21st century guide on how to be lady. With little to no more finishing schools around, how is a girl supposed to understand how to present oneself in the most pleasing of ways? By reading about it.
This is a very fast read, the book itself isn’t that big in dimensions, and less than 120 pages or so. But an interesting read nonetheless. While reading I had my sticky note papers sticking out the top so I could go back and read the parts that I found most interesting.

“Being a Lady means different things to different people. To me, it means treating other people with kindness and consideration, and if possible keeping your cool and acting with decorum at all times- in short, having good manners. Being a lady also means celebrating your femininity.”

This book is a quick guide on how to be a lady in this day and age. From the art of conversation, how to walk (properly and in heels) how to groom and style yourself (with general tips for hair and skin and colour combinations). Also it has information on how to host parties, how to properly attend parties, the different kinds of parties, and how to present yourself at work.

I found chapter one, Talk the Talk, very informational on how to create small talk. Or at least I’ll use some of their examples of how to greet someone you’ve run into randomly on the street. Save the awkward ‘hello… well goodbye.’ However I didn’t care for the small section where it explains how many ‘kisses’ you give when greeting. That just isn’t something I can see happening in our day and age. Not in my country at least. If I ever travel to France I know 3-4 kisses on the cheek, always starting on the left.

Learning to walk the walk wasn’t that big of a problem for me. After my bar hopping days I’ve become a pro at walking in heels, even when completely smashed. However I do have bad posture, and I know it. So I’ll take some of the tips given in this section of book and hopefully put it to good use. It even explains how to properly get out of a vehicle in heels and a skirt without flashing your hoo-ha to the world.

Grooming, I’ve always thought ‘less is more’ when it comes to makeup, at least on me. I never was one to spend a significant amount of time on makeup because I never learned how to apply it. This explains an easy way to go from a day to night look. As well explains fashion basics. Listing your essentials of what you need and how it should fit. I don’t expect to do an overhaul on my closet any day soon, but now when I am shopping I will have a slightly better idea of what to look for to create a timeless wardrobe.

Hosting and Dining. From how to be the perfect hostess, perfect guest, table settings, dining dilemma’s, and even how to properly taste wine. I can only hope that I can recreate the afternoon tea or cocktail party that I imagined myself hosting as I read through the types of parties section. How fun, an afternoon with the ladies with good conversation, good food and drinks.

The next chapter has information about how to travel, hail a cab, flirt and date. I’ve never traveled anywhere, so this was nice for me. However we don’t hail cabs in my city, and being already married, I have little use for the flirting and dating. But it was fun to read.

The Last chapter was on how to be a lady when on the clock. Again, being a stay at home wife I have very little use for this chapter. But it does have some good pointers that I might put to use in the future on how to deal.

Overall the book was a very interesting and entertaining read. It was written fairly recently, and not in the stone age. Modern technology is mentioned and references to celebrities (not by name) make it modern and easy to understand. Being an old-fashioned type of book on how to be a lady, it doesn’t make being a lady seem old fashioned. It just takes a little effort and you can be the next Audrey or Jackie-O.

I would recommend this book to anyone who wants a quick and enjoyable read. Or someone who wants to brush up on their mannerisms. I rate it 3.5/5 stars.